looking for a perfect life-partner????

ya Allah, how difficult can it b to find for someone who would b a part of our life in future??? every1 is talking abt getting married, some w having a would-be n some w/out hvng any, but e main point is to get married...
yea, it is Rasulullah sunnah to get married, it is somethg wonderful tht u'll strt ur life, ur own life, ur own family, nice na...
but e question here, e journey to get married, 1st n foremost to find our so-called perfect-match. asking n querying  here n there. jobs, hometown, siblings, family, height, look, bla, bla, bla etc...non-stop questions just to say no at last, damn it, haha.

mom told me today, if we (parents) looked for u someone, inshaAllah u'll b happy w him.. n she asked me to look at wht hppn to those whom u find on ur own, nothg work out!! those words stabbed right onto e heart.
that moment, only one thing came to my mind, i'll marry w my steth, n i want no one else in my future life as partner (actually it came out of my frustration n ws silly when re-thought abt it). tht made me realise smthg, its not about who looked for our future spouse, it is that how or e way we search for 'it'.
 if it is made for e sake of Allah, then thgs will go smoothly inshaAllah.. but if thgs made out of lust, then na'uzubillah, we'll find difficulties in doin it. n e point here, when someone looked for partner on eir own (coupling, dating etc. pre-marriage), it'll be more to desire, n if parents looked for it, then it'll b more to responsibilities n care...
p/s : (N/A for those who r now at this moment after reading my this sentence saying > "what e hell she's trying to say, it is not necessary to b so)

i believe life wont go as easy as that, so many procedures hv to go thru just to accomplish a marriage..
yea, what mom said might b true. of course as parents, they will b choosing e best one for eir children. tht was how it worked those days, she gave examples all those black n white flashbacks of how her marriage was arranged w my father. but, will it b working now, in this present era where people r widely interacting thru this big big mega super giant social networking n etc???
nvm, i'll go for my mother, their choice will b mine, let's see whether or not it'll work for me
or what if i'll look someone for myself
or even worse if "it" is not written in my fate i.e. single forever
wallahu 'alam ;p

inshaAllah