Bismillah ar - Rahman ar - Rahim
In the name of Allah the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful
Peace be upon Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah.
SECRET!!!! What is so special about this? Is secret really secretive? How many of us can really keep secret safe? At least our own secret?
Most of us can't keep secret, and I'm talking about our own secret here. We revealed it to others in the name of sharing by a typical dialogue of "I'm gonna share with u my secret, please keep it safe and promise me that u won't disclose it."
I'm sure most of us heard of this before in every part and stages of our life.
Let me tell you a truth, believe it or not, SECRET is a BURDEN!!! That is why we share it with others because we can't bear the burden alone.
And when we are sharing our "burden" with others, it means we have "leaked" our secret actually. U see the connection?
And when we ourself can't keep our secret safe, it is not acceptable to expect others to keep it safe.
I'm not saying that we can disclose or reveal or spread someone's secret simply like that. What I'm trying to say is, if we got to know that our secret is spreading around, don't get mad at those whom we shared our secret with, but ask ourself why we revealed our secret to others at the first place and asking them to be quiet when we ourself can't do it. Imagine how someone feel to keep our secret which might be a burden for him or her. Of course, he or she didn't purposely revealed it, but certain circumstances made him or her to disclose it.
When we can't bear our burden, it is not fair to expect someone else to bear it.
Somebody asked me, "Isn't an "amanah" or trust when someone tells us their secret; so, of course it is wrong for us to break the trust or "amanah", right?"
Yes, exactly, I'm not justifying that breaking trust is correct, it is indeed very wrong. But my question is, when we can't keep our trust to ourself and running away from that responsibility, why burdening others by asking to guard it?
Remember, good or bad, Allah is always there to listen to us. Don't depend on human as we human are very prone to make mistakes.
Yes, it is shameful and depressing when people got to know our "not really nice to hear" secret, but isn't it discouraged for us to disclose our shameful deeds to others? We often forget that actually. And if our "nice to hear" secret is spreading around, aren't we supposed to be happy that people are conveying their best wishes to us? (put aside the jealousy type of person as they are not going to make any significant difference in our life).
So, decide... Keep it ourself; or if shared, expect it to spread!
P/S: this entry is not suitable for those who like to spread other people's secret for gossips purpose, and I never encourage anyone to disclose a secret or break a trust.
I am just sharing my views, so that we can think carefully the neccesity of sharing our secret with others.
May Allah safe guard us..
"O ye who believe! If a wicked person comes to you with any news, ascertain the truth, lest ye harm people unwittingly, and afterwards become full of repentance for what ye have done." (49:6)
"O ye who believe! Avoid suspicion as much (as possible): for suspicion in some cases is a sin: And spy not on each other behind their backs. Would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? Nay, ye would abhor it...But fear Allah: For Allah is Oft-Returning, Most Merciful." (49:12)